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“A stunning debut by a truly gifted writer—an eye-opening read for both liberals and conservatives—and it could not come at a better time.”—Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Option B, with Sheryl Sandberg

What is the opposite of hate?

As a progressive commentator on Fox News and now CNN, Sally Kohn has made a career out of bridging intractable political differences and learning how to talk respectfully with people whose views she disagrees with passionately. Her viral TED Talk on the need to practice emotional—rather than political—correctness sparked a new way of considering how often we amplify our differences and diminish our connections.

But these days even famously “nice” Kohn finds herself wanting to breathe fire at her enemies. It was time, she decided, to look into the epidemic of hate all around us and learn how we can stop it. In The Opposite of Hate, Kohn talks to leading scientists and researchers and investigates the evolutionary and cultural roots of hate and how incivility can be a gateway to much worse. She travels to Rwanda, the Middle East, and across the United States, introducing us to former terrorists and white supremacists, and even some of her own Twitter trolls, drawing surprising lessons from dramatic and inspiring stories of those who left hate behind.

As Kohn confronts her own shameful moments, whether it was back when she bullied a classmate or today when she harbors deep partisan resentment, she discovers, “The opposite of hate is the beautiful and powerful reality of how we are all fundamentally linked and equal as human beings. The opposite of hate is connection.”

Sally Kohn’s engaging, fascinating, and often funny book will open your eyes and your heart.

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“Kohn is funny and warm as she shares the best ways to shift the hate and dissolve the barriers between those of us with divergent views.”
—Esquire

“A holistic guide toward building a world where we are all greater than fear and more powerful than anger.”
—Ms.

“Whether she’s visiting reconciliation villages in Rwanda or recounting her own surprisingly productive interactions with abusive Twitter trolls, Kohn is a thoughtful, empathetic reporter whose insights aren’t just timely – they feel necessary to our survival.”
—Apple Books

“A stunning debut by a truly gifted writer—an eye-opening read for both liberals and conservatives—and it could not come at a better time.”
—Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Option B, with Sheryl Sandberg

“A must-read book for all of us at this moment in history. I’m grateful for Sally Kohn’s clear voice and vision in showing us the way forward.”
—Elizabeth Gilbert

“Sally Kohn has really done it this time. Brilliant.”
—Sarah Silverman

“Sick of the anger, division and hate in our world? Sally Kohn’s book is uplifting, funny, and full of inspiring solutions.”
—Van Jones, host of The Van Jones Show and New York Times bestselling author of Beyond the Messy Truth

“Sally and I agree on very little politically, but somehow in spite of that, we have navigated a friendship that transcends everything else. This book explains it all!”
—Sean Hannity

“A testament to the power of understanding others deeply, the book reminds us that even those we disagree with vehemently have a perspective and orientation in the world that we can learn from as we work to make the world better.”
—DeRay Mckesson, social activist and host of Pod Save the People

“[Kohn's] passionate appeal for empathy provides a proactive springboard for readers who find themselves unable to comprehend the xenophobia and lack of civility in others. An uplifting and inspiring plea to promote peace, kindness, and humanitarianism in the face of hate.”
—Kirkus Reviews

About the Author

Sally Kohn is one of the leading progressive voices in America today. A CNN political commentatorandcolumnist, she was previously a Fox News contributor, and before that worked for over fifteen years as a community organizer. Kohn's writing has appeared in the Washington Post,the New York Times,RollingStone.com, Elle.com, USA Today, Time, and many other outlets. She is also a popular keynote speaker and frequently leads media and speaking-skills workshops for grassroots activists and corporate leaders. Kohn lives in Brooklyn with her partner, Sarah Hansen, and their daughter, Willa.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Algonquin Books; First Edition (April 10, 2018)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 272 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1616207280
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1616207281
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 13.8 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.75 x 1 x 8.7 inches

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Sally Kohn is one of the leading progressive voices in America today. The author of THE OPPOSITE OF HATE and host of STATE OF RESISTANCE podcast, Sally is a CNN political commentator and columnist. Sally's writing has appeared in the Washington Post, New York Times, New York Magazine, More Magazine, RollingStone.com, Elle.com, USA Today, Time, Afar Magazine and many other outlets. She's also a popular keynote speaker and frequently leads media and speaking skills workshops for grassroots activists and corporate leaders.

Previously, Sally spent 15 years as a community organizer. She served as Senior Campaign Strategist with the Center for Community Change, a 45-year-old hub of grassroots organizations nationwide. Sally served as co-director of ideas and innovation for the Center, helping lead the pioneering Campaign for Community Values, producing a nationally televised Presidential candidate forum in 2008, developing a new media organizing project on health care reform in rural communities and spearheading several other initiatives.

Before that, Sally held a program fellowship at the Ford Foundation, was a strategic advisor to the Social Justice Infrastructure Funders—a private network of 25 top program staff from some of the nation’s most prominent foundations, and served as Executive Director of the Third Wave Foundation, the leading young women’s organization in the country. She was also a distinguished Vaid Fellow at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute, where she published a groundbreaking guidebook for organizing campaigns to win domestic partnership benefits. Sally also worked as a consultant with the Urban Justice Center, publishing a report on the experiences of gay youth in the New York juvenile justice system.

Sally received a joint degree in law and public administration from New York University and was a Root Tilden public service scholar at the New York University School of Law. She received her undergraduate degree from George Washington University in D.C. Originally from Allentown, Pennsylvania, Sally now resides in Brooklyn, New York, with her partner Sarah Hansen and their daughter Willa.

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Chad

This conservative loved it!

Reviewed in the United States on April 24, 2018

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I am a political conservative writer and have followed Sally for a long time. Although I have spent most of that time strongly opposing her worldview, I have found her to be an insightful and kind individual open to discussion. That is rare in political discourse and should be welcomed and valued.

This book is an excellent expression of that characteristic. Sally has a talent for bringing emotion to her stories and connecting them to her point of view and her argument. She presented a way of looking at the world I found myself considering in more depth than I normally would. Her story of a Palestinian man who lost his daughter to meaningless violence was moving and challenging. She makes black and white topics far less clear-cut and I appreciate that.

Although her ideas depend on an understanding and acceptance of specific progressive ideas on the nature of humanity and the consequences of history, a conservative reader is given unique access into how progressives view things without the voice being combative or lecturing. I do not agree with the foundation of her reasoning, but I recognize what she is telling me is true. It is a unique experience.

Sally tries valiantly to incorporate a diverse set of examples spanning the range of political ideologies in order to provide a balanced view. Although I think there could have been more room for internal-house cleaning within the modern progressive movement, I appreciate her efforts nevertheless. I do not feel she attacks the Right as much as she tried her best to understand us.

This book is worth a read. Even if you do not agree with her at all on anything you will appreciate her insight and her personal stories. In terms of attempting to bridge the gap between political ideologies, I think this is an excellent attempt. In a rare case, both sides can benefit from this book I think. I appreciate her writing this and I hope it inspires more discussion and interaction.

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Dana K

What I love about Sally Kohn’s debut book is the conversation it ...

Reviewed in the United States on May 8, 2018

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What I love about Sally Kohn’s debut book is the conversation it launched. On all sides. It is insightful and deeply personal – I love that it is not intended to be a scientific research paper, but more of a deep dive into the global plague of hate and her personal journey to understand, confront and inspire the reader to take measures and check themselves and their own personal biases that can lead to hate.

Not without controversy, there is a question about the ethics of the publishing world and its authors. This is another great conversation. What is disappointing, is that instead of taking a passage from Sally’s book and looking inward to face and address that which we don’t agree (or understand), instead there have been hateful words and smear campaigns deliberately intended to harm all parties – dare I say cyberbully?

No matter where you stand on the challenges of THE OPPOSITE OF HATE, there is no question that the world would be a much better place if the divisive behavior that leads humans to hate was gone. Sally’s thought-provoking book lays out a map for individuals to look to their own behavior and understand what prompts us to hate. Well-done.

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Jay Gilbertson

Very Important Read! Great for Teachers Too!

Reviewed in the United States on June 6, 2018

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The Opposite of Hate
A Field Guide to Repairing Our Humanity
By Sally Kohn

Reviewed by Jay Gilbertson

We all hate. All of us. That means me, and unfortunately it also includes you. We are not born to do this; to judge and then hate others. We are taught to hate by the world around us. And by the way, hate is a four-letter word, worlds away from another four-letter word: love.
Author Kohn first came to my attention when her Ted Talk landed in my in-box. If you’re not familiar with Ted Talks, you should be. Hate has always been a fascination to me, how bullies can develop from even the nicest seeming individuals and what is the motivating factor that allows us to hate others? How this powerful emotion can blind us into choosing sides and spewing hate.
It has to stop.
“In different ways and to different degrees, consciously or unconsciously, all of us, in one way or another, sometimes treat other individuals and entire groups of human beings as though they are fundamentally less deserving than we are.”
Though I do feel Kohn went slightly off the rails sharing examples in the book and over-explained several scientific research projects on the subject, her message is none-the-less important and very timely. I should caution you, as in the following quote, Kohn can be very harsh in her observations of our country’s past, but don’t let that stop you from hearing her larger message.
“The United States was founded on hate—the hatred that justified colonial annihilation of American Indians and that perpetuated the enslavement of Africans. Hate divided the country during the Civil War and, a century later, spawned protest movements and backlash movements, with activists vying over issues of justice and human rights. And Americans are not alone in this legacy…”
To understand how society can justify hate is not that difficult. If you don’t have the capacity to imagine yourself as black, Muslim, gay or anything you are not, you can justify hate. Everyone has done this to some degree. We all think we have it worse, which gives us permission to marginalize others by bullying, disregarding completely or simply not seeing our similarities. You name it, we find a reason and then we slather on the hate. The solution to changing this behavior of us vs. them is pretty simple. It’s there in front of you and it’s up to each and every one of us.
“We need to meet the people we hate and learn their stories, which means supporting institutions and policies that foster connection-spaces, and also creating our own. Getting outside ourselves, breaking through the physical and mental walls of our own narratives and viewpoints.”
The bottom line; it’s nearly impossible to hate anyone up close, in person, face-to-face.
“What I’ve learned is that all hate is premised on a mind-set of otherizing. The sanctimonious pedestal of superiority on which we all put ourselves while we systematically dehumanize others is the essential root of hate. In big and small ways, consciously and unconsciously, we constantly filter the world around us through the lens of our explicit and implicit biases. This abets rationalization and looking the other way about widespread injustices, such as dismissing entire communities that don’t have access to health care, of entire nations locked in civil war because they fall outside the sphere of our moral concern.”
There is a crisis of hate surging through the US and the world and we need to see it. Leo Tolstoy wrote, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
Consider this. You don’t have to agree with everyone, or give up your particular beliefs or views, you don’t even have to like everyone. Actually, the opposite of hate is so much easier to do and be and teach and experience and share. We really only have to keep this one thing in mind; we are all basically connected and equal as human beings.
The opposite of hate is—connection.

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Kelly A19

Essential reading

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 20, 2019

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I'm loving the reviews from those who've clearly not got the message of the book - they're brilliantly proving the author's point and don't even know it.
This book should be a must-read in all schools: maybe that would help the next generation be less hateful than some of the middle-aged monsters currently creeping around social media.
Kohn writes on a subject that could be very dry and academic, but she has deftly crafted prose that is easily-read, humorous in parts, painful at times, but always honest and fair.
She supplies some answers, many of which we could all adapt easily into our lives.
Her essential message is very simple - hate is not the answer to hate. Whether that be Kohn replying angrily to her many trolls, or extremists screaming hate at all Muslims because of the acts of a few extremist terrorists. Or any one of us responding to Trump's 'basket of deplorables'...
It's all summed up in my favourite quote: Be the change you want to see in this world.
If you want the world to be hateful, continue spouting hate. If you want a more peaceable world, find connections. Kohn will teach you how.
One word of warning - the chapter on Rwanda is effective, important, but extremely moving. In parts, some descriptions of the hateful acts perpetrated are unbearable to read. It's maybe only two paragraphs of the whole book, but they hurt and they stay with you. Be cautious in reading this chapter if you yourself have suffered from any violent trauma.

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A good read!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 6, 2019

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This was a good book. Covered different areas and topics that I think many people would find interesting. I’d give 5, but the author included a chapter on internet trolling which felt like a personal rant. Womp waaa. I’d reccomend just skipping that chapter and it should be enjoyable!

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